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Re: WHAT ARE YOU DOING?!?!?

Postby Mallard No. 22 » 11 Jan 2017, 09:26

Good luck AB.

One thing I will say - often you should just enjoy the music for what it is.

And not always be fascinated by the back-story, i.e. who played what (& who didn't, and why), what impact it had on culture at the time etc....

It is something that I have to remind myself of as well. :)
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Re: WHAT ARE YOU DOING?!?!?

Postby AdvertBreak » 11 Jan 2017, 15:54

Thanks guys :)

Mallard No. 22 wrote:Good luck AB.

One thing I will say - often you should just enjoy the music for what it is.

And not always be fascinated by the back-story, i.e. who played what (& who didn't, and why), what impact it had on culture at the time etc....

It is something that I have to remind myself of as well. :)

I mostly do play music just for what it is though, I'm sorry if I've made it appear like I don't ?. I like to contextualise as well though when its comes to writing or discussion, and also to very obviously disregard contextualising in certain scenarios (often when I like making strong comparisons and connections between seemingly disparate songs/albums/bands etc.)
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Re: WHAT ARE YOU DOING?!?!?

Postby Mallard No. 22 » 18 Jan 2017, 08:46

I like to look at things in context as well. Though it can get to the point where you forget why you liked the music in the first place :D

Also, music of a particular time is often linked to politics of that time. Yet I think that this is not necessarily the case.

A record was often a hit because people liked it, and not because it related to economic recession, etc.
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Re: WHAT ARE YOU DOING?!?!?

Postby AdvertBreak » 19 Jan 2017, 02:59

Mallard No. 22 wrote:I like to look at things in context as well. Though it can get to the point where you forget why you liked the music in the first place :D

Also, music of a particular time is often linked to politics of that time. Yet I think that this is not necessarily the case.

A record was often a hit because people liked it, and not because it related to economic recession, etc.

I rarely think about context when I'm listening to music. But when I'm writing its very fun.
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Re: WHAT ARE YOU DOING?!?!?

Postby AdvertBreak » 20 Jan 2017, 00:18

I started it today and from the initial mist it emerged it was cognitive therapy. I was surprised they didn't ask me the causes of my problems, but I listed the effects so that's to the point and in a few weeks time I'll be having another 1-1 to sort out coping techniques.
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Re: WHAT ARE YOU DOING?!?!?

Postby Mallard No. 22 » 25 Jan 2017, 08:22

It will be an ongoing thing AB.
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Re: WHAT ARE YOU DOING?!?!?

Postby AdvertBreak » 21 Mar 2017, 00:02

AdvertBreak wrote:I started it today and from the initial mist it emerged it was cognitive therapy. I was surprised they didn't ask me the causes of my problems, but I listed the effects so that's to the point and in a few weeks time I'll be having another 1-1 to sort out coping techniques.


Okay so its been a while since I posted the story so I'll continue. Anyway after what i referred to last time, they officially booked for the therapy to begin mid February onwards for four weeks (later adding an extra two). So it began on 15 February at a local practitioners and it seemed to start well. Over the ensuing four weeks in fact, the originally booked sessions, it went quite okay. There wasn't any talking about the problems as such but still ways of coping with low mood, several techniques and stuff, so if that can work then good enough. And it kinda has, i've had a lot of papers to take away each week and lots of stuff to write and fill in to mark my progress.

Ultimately though I'm not sure if its doing too much anything really. Helpful techniques sure even if for just trying not to wheel in on the negatives on stuff and relieving stress. But more recently my low mood has got worse again and I find it really hard to focus on trying stuff out or on basically most things I do, be it internet, writing etc. (this week alone i've written five Wikipedia pages plus the forum awards as a real self-motivation and with hope they'd distract me and they have for a while at least) so they aren't much help at the minute. Last week was my penultimate session and I couldn't really focus even there; I've developed a bit of a crush on my therapist truth be told but last week (this crush has suddenly got a bit bigger) being there it just reminded me how lonely I am even in the face of her trying to help out with the general broad scope of low mood.

My final session is Wednesday but the work is over and instead its just going to be a half-hour kinda reflection on stuff and see if the whole therapy was helpful and if not, what I'd do next, and truth be told I don't know what to say. I really don't want to discredit her help and it's done at least one thing very noticeably good, that being my sleeping pattern has become more orderly again (another accidental good is that me developing my little crush is me crushing on someone who doesn't fit "my type" which can only be good given how specific it is), and though I'm not satisfied I don't want to say that and I can't help but feel I wouldn't be satisfied with any other sort of help anyway so I feel stuck. It doesn't seem as easy as to 'just tell her how I feel' because i really don't want to be negative (like its no different than me saying i'm satisfied with work at college even if i'm not, for example) but when she offers me, say, counselling or whatever should I choose to find other help, uh, like I dunno what to say ahhh.
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Re: WHAT ARE YOU DOING?!?!?

Postby 101reykjavik » 21 Mar 2017, 00:25

Hi AB. The therapist you've been talking to is a professional, they won't see it as a negative if you say you found it useful to have some techniques but be honest with her that you've been feeling lower recently, so is there anything else we / you / they could recommend. If she says there's more therapy sessions you can try with her don't feel you have to commit there and then. Just say thanks, I'll give that some thought. You could always drop her an email for example if you decide you would prefer not to continue seeing her and it was easier not having to give her a decision face to face. She's there to help and will have some good advice on what to do next though I suspect, with or without her. Perhaps she can refer you to somebody to talk more about matters generally rather than coping mechanisms for example if that's been the focus so far (that might be what she specialises in?). Five weeks is quite a short amount of time so if anything she would probably be surprised if you jumped up and said, great, all sorted, cheers! kind of thing. I'd say, it's been useful but you'd like to try some more / something else as you still feel down regularly, struggle to focus and so on and see what she says. No expert mate, but just my thoughts. Stick at it.
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Re: WHAT ARE YOU DOING?!?!?

Postby Mallard No. 22 » 21 Mar 2017, 08:09

yes, good advice from 101reykjavik.
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Re: WHAT ARE YOU DOING?!?!?

Postby AdvertBreak » 23 Mar 2017, 13:04

Thanks for the advice but how it went down was, as that was the end of therapy, she kinda said now is the time where i let the therapy sink in and if i want to continue seeking help at any point I can call them up again and see if they have anything else I can do, and she also gave me counselling numbers should I want to do that instead. At the moment I don't know what I'm gonna do, I'm tempted to leave it a while though.
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Re: WHAT ARE YOU DOING?!?!?

Postby Mallard No. 22 » 28 Mar 2017, 07:40

Yes, let it sink in.
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Re: WHAT ARE YOU DOING?!?!?

Postby AdvertBreak » 28 Mar 2017, 22:47

Tbh I'm not sure its going to do anything beyond what it has really but i'm looking to try out some other things (non-therapy related) in life over the next few months
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